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How to respond to bullying and safeguard your health from its effects




How Should I Respond To Bullying, and How Should I Safeguard my Health From It's Effects?
What is bullying?
Bullying is an intentional and repeated display of an aggressive or hostile behaviour by an individual or a group towards another individual that they deem to be inferior, less powerful or weak; and which can be effected via verbal, physical, and psychological means. Bullying is said to occur when you are exposed to constant nitpicking, fault finding, criticism of a trivial nature, constant refusal to acknowledge you and your contributions, isolation, marginalization, attempts to undermine you and your potentials, humiliation, belittling, etc
Steps on How to Respond to Bullying
1) Know why you are bullied:  This is the most important step that most victims often overlook. Their is a reason why you are bullied and you need to discover it so that you can know the certain changes you can make on your part to stop the bullying. For instance, the most common triggers of bullying is jealousy, rejection and envy; if you are bullied because of jealousy, you need to check you actions that arouse such feeling, and know how you can shape your actions so that it won't arouse such feeling. Maybe the scourge of such feeling, for instance, could be the way you flaunt your progress, or maybe in school it could be the way you answer questions in class, and how you try to tell them that you are the best student. If it is any thing of a trivial nature that makes people to bully you, then you plan on the certain changes you can make on that altitude of yours.
  It is important to know why people bully us, because when we discover why we are bullied, we make amends on our behavior  and we can successfully stop the bully. Remember, I said that if we are bullied because of something trivial, we can make amend, but if we are bullied because of something that is prerequisite for our progress and health, do not make use of this step. This step is not applicable to all occasions. For instance, if you are bullied because you refused to join a cult group, do not use this step. We only modify our behavior if we are bullied because of something trivial.

2) Don't Respond the way they want you to:  Sometimes when you report a case of bully, the answer you get most is 'just ignore them.' They are telling you not to respond the way they want you to respond. They just want you to have a particular feeling (anger,etc) and retaliate. When you accommodate that feeling and retaliate, it gives them the heart to increase the bullying. When bullies criticize you, often there is grain of truth in the criticism to fool you into believing that the criticism has validity, which it does not. The criticism is based on distortion, misrepresentation or fabrication. When such criticism comes to you, you know who you are, you know what you are, and you know what they are saying about you is not true; don't be fooled, ignore them and pray for the lord to touch their hearts.
       This are the way you will respond to certain kind of bullies.
Physical bullying: don't fight them. Physical bullying usually occurs in a secluded area where they would love to beat you without interference, so you need to avoid every secluded area that are close to them, and always be around where people are. But whenever you see them, smile to them and do not retaliate. Whenever they are in trouble help them. The Bible says in Romans 12: 20 " Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head." When you show love to them, they Battle with their conscience. If you were attacked violently, don't hesitate to report to the police or any other authority.
Verbal bullying: When this comes, let it not trouble you unless it is a threat. Never you ignore a threat no matter the form it comes to you. If the threat was made via cell phone record it; if it was made in front of you, monitor the next time such threat will be made to you and have someone else (maybe your friend) to witness such threats. If the threats are made repeatedly, report to the police station to put the bully to order. Also do not forget to pray for guidance and protection from God. But if it is a normal verbal bullying let it not get into your head and ignore them. Even if you were bullied in front of other people, those people are not the owner of your life, just ignore them and make yourself happy and at the same time pursue your dreams. In whichever way you are bullied, seek the face of the lord.
Bullying to undermine your position:  Before anyone attempts to undermine your position via bullying, they must have knowledge of your flaws. Hence, make sure you hide your weaknesses to hostile groups. And watch out for what you do, because if they can't find your weakness then they will set traps for you to fall into. Just do the right thing and pray for the grace of God to lead you through.
3) Be courageous: 2 Timothy 1:7 " For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind." When we are bullied, to respond with fear is a wrong response, you must respond with courage that you can overcome them. If they see you as someone that is vulnerable, then don't play weak in their eyes but don't retaliate. Just carry out your daily activities and don't let fear creep into you. Whatever they do to you, show them love.
How to Safeguard Your Health Against Bullying
Victims of bullying often suffer from health challenges such as: irritable bowel syndrome, bad memory, poor concentration, shattered self confidence, sleeplessness, hypertension, low self esteem, incessant weeping, etc.
How can we prevent all these health challenges?
The first thing you need to do is pray to God and ask for his direction and wisdom on how to avoid this diseases that can be gotten via bullying. The second thing you need to do is to see the invalidity and falsehood in their comments and actions towards you. If only you can see the falseness in their actions, then you will be able to ignore and not take it serious. The answer is to ignore them and work to make things better.
Remember, don't pay evil with evil but rather pay evil with good.
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